“I don’t want to get up, I don’t want to leave my warm and cozy bed, leave my precious dreams behind,” she said. The world she woke up to as a child was so different from what she experienced inside. Her precious dreams so fragile… Afraid she would forget.
Now she’s all grown up, so she takes her favorite pen, to spill her reveries out. She writes them all down. to anchor her visions, so they no longer float around.
Her dreams begin to spill over to her waking state, and her hopes for a more beautiful, magical experience grows brighter and stronger.
*Hurkle Durkle: a 200 year-old Scottish term meaning to lounge in bed long after it’s time to get up. Happiness is hurkle-durkling.
I am not small or insignificant. I am as large and as relevant as Life itself. I am Life.
In life, there is no such thing as comparison. In life, everything is Life— Big or small, single or multicellular organism, there is no separation between
different representations of Life. You are the living proof.
Mind is what mind does. Mind is an innocent child. It likes to play games. It likes to find different venues, in endless ways. Mind is entirely in your capable hands, once you become ripe enough to become more aware.
Awareness is like the perfectly ripe fruit
of Mother Nature and Baba Sun. Each of us nurture that fruit, that nimble child of ours. Each of us in our own unique way and time are just like fruits ripening in nature. It’s that simple.
I love the scent of the ripe strawberries, radiant red, infused with sun power, bursting with life force.
It tastes unlike any other fruit
I have ever picked directly off the plant and delightfully packed into my mouth. Eyes closed. Perfection when it all comes together, as it should, as it was meant to be.
The journey of the ripened strawberry should not be forced. It will never taste the same and you will know. Once you have tasted the perfectly sun-ripened strawberry, receiving the sensorial explosion in your mouth with its fully intense strawberry taste, you will never forget the experience— even if time comes when you have to settle for less.
Life can be such. All you need to do is close your eyes, focus on that delightful perfect strawberry moment in your life, and you will be able to recall its sense, perhaps even its taste. Such is the power of mind.
Appreciate all what you’ve been gifted to experience in life. Don’t try to possess or take anything or anyone for granted.
Each of us represents equally significant part
of one permeating Life Force. Don’t ever be fooled in misleading beliefs
or dogmas indicating otherwise. Your every breath, each heartbeat
is your greatest guide showing you that you are Life itself.
Nuances are here to be celebrated— varieties to make our life experience more abundant, joyful, and complete.
Let’s celebrate Life!
Respect Life! Like you have learned to respect yourself, or how you would truly like to be respected. Protect Life like you protect your own life!
Every bit matters. You are Life. Life is You. You matter. Life matters.
Many of us were ‘encouraged’ to discover and engage in the act of most innocent deception of attracting much needed attention before we even became aware of what we were doing.
When you are a baby, you need attention, you need love, and recognition – you have the urge to know that you exist, that you’re real – which is all good, it’s part of an essential and healthy ego development. If the attention is not automatically given by our parents when we need it, for as long as we need it, we have no choice but to discover how to attract attention. That’s how we begin learning to manipulate energies and people around us. The story begins with a very special and simple kind of sound called ‘crying’.
For example, if you did not receive the attention needed from your mother when you were an infant, you had to figure out how to get her attention and eventually you discovered that making noise, i.e., crying, ruffles the feathers and achieves the intention.
Surely, that can be very confusing for parents – there is crying and there is crying. One is real (pain, discomfort, hunger), the other is also real, but intentional – there’s a subtle nuance that reveals the truth and only mothers who are very much connected and in tune with their babes will know exactly which cry is which. But not all mothers have the privilege or that kind of awareness. (Please note, there is no judgement, blame, or shame intended. Thigs are the way they are and everything is a subject of change.)
This is how manipulation became part of our identity, how it initially helped us attract attention and develop our personality. If you’re interested in this topic, tune into the interview about the importance of vegal theory and the co-regulation when mothering a child, which helps the child to learn about very important act of self-regulation. Knowing how to self-regulate gives a shared feeling of support and helps the child to develop the required neuroplasticity, i.e., the boldness, the strength required to courageously venture out to the world. (‘Trauma and the Nervous System’: Gabor Mate and Stephen Porges – see link below; Time stamp 33:30 – 36:05).
Nearly every mammalian child has 100% access to their mother for as long as they need her – apart from humans. Not that long ago – in hunter gathering societies – infants used to be attached to their mother for as long as they required their presence. Any other way seemed unnatural. Yet, when you look at our modern society, it is clear that infants and babies lack full access to their mother or father (mothering instinct occurs in both genders). Hence, most babies or children are literally ‘encouraged’ to find all sorts of ways of getting the much-needed attention.
Do they get it or not is a different story. Was it successful and fulfilling, or not? If unsuccessful, what kind of traumatic experiences did that leave in their psyche? What are the consequences?
It depends from one person to another, but the good news is, co-regulation happens in every stage of our life, hence we subconsciously seek intimate connection to other mammalians that help us self-regulate (well, that’s one of many reasons). Co-regulation happens when we are intimately connected to another mammalian – be it our partner, friend, or a pet.
Looking at the state of our society, the level of disconnect between people – many of us can not give up the need for attention, because it was never fully satisfied and we’re still trying to compensate for something that was never fulfilled. Hence, we crave and seek attention; we come up with all sorts of ways to attract other mammals – just like flowers attract insects to pollinate them and ensure their succession.
Think about the phenomena of social media – it seems to me, it was a natural consequence to develop a system that enables any kind of human interaction – however, I think it gives a false impression of receiving attention we deeply need. The number of likes and followers may boost our ego, but I’m not sure it satisfies what we truly seek. It’s important to be aware of it – else you can get lost – the path can easily lead you towards developing a new addiction.
We are human beings, we are fragile, yet incredibly resilient. We need attention, we need love, we need to be recognized for who we are. We also have a need to give attention, love, recognition to others. As long as you don’t build some fake identity of yourself, as long as you remain authentic, content with who you really are, you will be fine. Even if you end up having a million followers on your social media account or just a few. It’s all the same. Because you know yourself, and nothing, and no-one can ever change that.
Stay alert though. Be careful you don’t start bluffing, pretending to be something or someone you’re not, just because you think you will gain more traction and attention – you can slowly and surely get lost and drift away. That’s another well-known trap and the deeper you get into it, the harder it is to get out, which can turn into yet another level of misery. Here, I’m happy to share my mantra with you; you can trust me, it works: ‘Know yourself, be yourself, love yourself.’
Before I end, I invite you to try something out. Next time you receive attention, accept it with gratitude, don’t take it for granted – respond gracefully – pay it forward wholeheartedly! When someone talks to you, listen to them attentively, being fully present. This includes humans and mammals. Only with the attitude and intention that comes from your heart, can the much-needed healing of this deeply rooted, multigenerational issue, that humanity is currently facing, begin. Every intention counts.