Compassion and Ego

Something short and sweet for today; yet poignant when trying to grasp compassion and where it stands when judgement kicks in.

Compassion and judgement are not the two opposites.

We must first distinguish the two roles judgement can assume in person’s life.

First, judging can be a type of behavior of a person, a habit.

Second, judging can also be a very useful process and a skill to be applied through wisdom. Even sages need to use judgement to correctly estimate the situation and act accordingly. For example when you’re interviewing a candidate, you have to apply judgement to assess the suitability of the candidate.

A person, who’s judgement is part of his/her behavior is a different story.

What about compassion than? It’s quite simple, really.

See this image with me and Daisy; it’s so easy for me to feel compassion for her, she feels so divine, godly. Or for a child; when they’re doing something in front of me, maybe playing, and all I have to do is close my eyes, and I get that bonding sensation, a feeling between me and the little one. A connection of the self in both of us. I am able to see “god” in a waking state. That is compassion for me.

It’s easy to see “god” in children or Daisy, or others whom I like, but quite challenging when a person who has cheated me for $15k is standing in front of me, picking up his cheque I had to write. Sometimes, people tend to be very cruel, but that is only due to my own experience. Judgement kicks in, and distorts the ability for me to feel any bond or compassion. My ego flares up, all I can see in that moment is a cheater, someone who hurt me. I have to try really hard to go beyond my judgmental ego, to calm down, to see beyond my limitations, and behave as the self.

It is the ego that is the opposite to compassion – when ego interferes compassion almost disappears. Ego makes it very difficult for compassion to exist.

People with very strong ego/personalities have one of the predispositions, a tendency of being judgmental. They want to fight, prove, resist, compete, analyze, etc., all that in a very restless way. The room for compassion is taken away, the space becomes sullied.

Can you see the difference? Can you grasp the flow and realize what obstructs you from being compassionate and how your ego may interfere in your relations to others? Humans, or non humans? Friends or villains?

Addition (18th March 2022)

Compassion arises through us all, out of love for another. Another being, plant, visible, or non-visible object.

In that very moment, the self that you are, recognizes the self in the other. It is the same self itself. Not two, nor three, but one. One self, like one sun, reflecting through milliards of mirrors. Its purpose to shine.

The cleaner your mirror, the more you reflect, extending your luster & shine.

Like the full moon, continuously rising, waning, reflecting. Sometimes less, sometimes more, sometimes not, and sometimes fully…

Become like the full moon, my friend, bring through your full light, especially when the night appears to be dark.


Every mother, father, sister, brother, son, daughter, or a child has experienced compassion. There’s not a singles human under the Sun, who hasn’t. You have it, you know it, it happens through you too.

We’ve only narrowed it down a bit, shrank the orbits of our compassion towards those closest to our heart, to those we love.

Yet the sun shines for all, doesn’t it, my friend?

And still we constrain, out of fear, judgement, anger, resentment, sadness, animosity, rage, doubt, stories, struggle, pain,.. We create our own self deprived reality of our co-existence on planet Earth.

I wonder, would it hurt to give it a go, wipe the slate clean, and let go? Drop that, which takes away our fully fledged luster and shine? That, which is given to us as a birthright? Something so precious, nothing and not one can ever take away. Not even you.

Yes, I am speaking to you, because you matter just as much as I matter. We all matter, we all can smile and shine.

Matter=physical substance=all life forms=Prakriti, Shakti—through which the Purusha, Atman, the Sun=pure awareness= consciousness—shines.

We rely on the Sun’s energy to live on Earth, and we all have the same potential to shine that light, to live life, and to support life on Earth. If you don’t believe me, simply plant a sunflower seed – or any seed – look after it, a bit, watch it grow, and you will see.

As above, so below, as within so without.


Enough for now.

Further reading: I found this beautiful piece on The Ancient Yoga of the Sun. It resonates deeply.

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